Deciding what to do when you find out you’re pregnant is difficult. We want to help you step back, look at the big picture, and make the most informed decision. If parenting is not an option for you, don’t be afraid to explore the possibilities of adoption.
What do I need to know about adoption?
Today, adoption is very different than it was even a couple of decades ago. Adoption is one way for you to be a parent without the day-to-day responsibilities. There are a variety of adoption plans you can make. You have the opportunity to be in control of the adoption process. We can help answer adoption questions and provide referrals such as:
- What is the best option for my situation?
- What types of adoption exist, and which one is best for me?
- Referrals to local adoption agencies and maternity homes.
There are three general types of adoption. However, you can tailor the process to best suit your needs.
As a birth parent, you have the opportunity to choose the adoptive family for your child as well as how involved you want to be in your child’s life. Open adoption means you and the adoptive family can choose to share identifying information such as full names, phone numbers and addresses. Ongoing contact can include face-to-face meetings, phone calls, texts and letters.
In the end, you decide what is comfortable for you, the child, and their family. You will have the opportunity to be a part of the child’s life in whatever capacity is best for everyone.*
A semi-open adoption means the communication you do have will be through a third-party such as an adoption attorney or agency. You choose how much information and contact you would like to share and receive. Usually, the adoptive family and birth family share first names only.
The terms can be negotiated and set by you and the adoptive family. This option allows you to have a carefully defined relationship with your child without the ongoing connection of open adoption.*
Some women prefer to have no communication with the adoptive family or child. They feel this is the best choice in order to move on with their lives. You will still choose the adoptive family, but you’ll have no interaction with them before or after the birth.
Your identity remains completely anonymous in a closed adoption. You have total privacy.
The Pros and Cons of Adoption
- You choose what is best for you and your child
- You have the opportunity to get to know your child without the day-to-day responsibilities
- You pay nothing. All expenses are paid by the adoptive family
- You have complete control over the entire process, choosing the right family for your child
- You must carry your child to full term
- You may experience emotional challenges as you release your child
Let’s talk about the possibility of making an adoption plan for you. We also have adoption agency referrals. We want to help you find what’s best for you.
*Open and semi-open adoption arrangements between a birth parent and adoptive family are typically verbal agreements and are not legally binding in the state of Texas.